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I’m only lovable if

As a man, the word lovable is unacceptable. We are not allowed to be lovable. Loveable is a term used to describe women or hamsters. The cute little hamster can be lovable, but a man must be hansom or strong.  It doesn’t matter that Merriam Websters online dictionary says that lovable means “having qualities that attract affection,” because men don’t need affection in our society. I wish that was truly the case. We do need affection but in our society’s culturalization of men, a man must embrace his stereotype or he is not a man.

Our culturalization even influences what we would think would be required for us to be “lovable.” We can only be lovable, if we have lots of money, or if we have an ungodly expensive car, or because we have a terrific sense of humor, or because we can lift an automobile above our heads. These are the things that we are supposed to believe make us lovable. That brings us to what is required for me to be lovable. I’m only lovable if I can ignore the idea that men being lovable is unacceptable.

What is it that you think makes you lovable? Please leave your answer in the comments below.

How to Be a Winner

You might be wondering why some people always seem to win. No matter what happens, certain people always seem to come out ahead. These people are not lucky, although luck does help. It is because they know something that losers do not. They know how to be a winner.

Here are the 4 steps to become a winner.

Step 1: You have to try.

“Next to trying and winning, the best thing is trying and failing. ”

Lucy Maud Montgomery

Many people are so afraid of losing that they never try anything. To be a winner you have to fail over and over again. Winners do not always win, but people who do not try never win. Don’t let your fear of failure stop you from trying.

“Daring ideas are like chessmen moved forward. They may be beaten, but they may start a winning game.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Step 2: Stop losing and start winning.

“Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.”

Vince Lombardi

It sounds simple enough doesn’t it? Look, if you are losing or failing over and over again, it is time to change the game play. Don’t keep doing the same failed actions. If something doesn’t work, try again with a different approach.

Step 3: The worst wrong you can be is right.

“Don’t fight a battle if you don’t gain anything by winning.”

George S. Patton

Sometimes people get so stuck on winning, that they become a loser even if they win. I once heard that New Mexico spent millions to investigate and convict a state worker that embezzled a couple thousand dollars. Yeah they won, I mean they sure got that guy. In the end, New Mexico was still a loser. Remember this next time you have an argument with your significant other, it could come in handy.

John Lowenstein

Step 4: Ignore the losses.

“The secret to keeping winning streaks going is to maximize the victories while at the same time minimizing the defeats.”

John Lowenstein

If all you do is obsess over your losses, then you will always lose. Winners obsess over their wins not their losses. You might lose a dozen times and only win once, but that still means you are a winner. Winning is very much in your head and so is losing.